National Coming Out Day
11 04 09 - 16:48 Category: .
Brought to my attention from Joe.My.God., here's one of a ton of different National Coming Out Day videos. This one is pretty cute.
Coming out is a perpetual process. Some family knows, some family doesn't, and family will forever be getting used to it. Just within the last few months I've replaced "roommate" with "David" when talking with my coworkers and letting them figure it out from there. After a year with my company he'll finally be coming to some formal company events as well as some informal staff get-togethers. It's a constant process, but it definitely gets easier.
When I came out to my dad I was terrified. In return he told me I'm his son, he loves me no matter what, and "anyone who has a problem with you, has a problem with me." He also cautioned me to use protection...
Recently, my father told me that he wasn't comfortable of the idea of David and I having a wedding, because marriage is between one man and one woman. I was rocked to my core, I don't think I've ever been hurt worse.
Now I'm working to meet him in the middle. He still loves me and he was desperately afraid telling me that would cause a rift between us. He doesn't think we shouldn't have marriage rights, he's just hung up on terminology and feeling uncomfortable. It's not that he disapproves or he believes we are fundementally wrong, it's just not something he's use to. It's a matter of tradition, not a matter of morality or legality. And so I meet him in the middle.
The end result is that the "wedding" plans are canceled. It wouldn't be fun. I was already being stressed out in the earliest planning stages, so I am saving myself untold stress as well. Instead, we are going to simply sign the domestic partnership documents with closest friends and family at the county clerk, and then go to dinner.
We're still dressing up nice, I demand it. I will get David in a suit! We still might get a professional photographer to document today. We're still going to wear the rings.
I can't wait.